Weight is such a big deal. Weight supposedly is what defines a person. That’s how a lot of people look at it. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Whatever floats a persons boat though, ya know. 

Speaking of weight, I never really cared how much I weighed until i met someone. They have an ED. They no longer purge which is a great thing. Otherwise, they still continue taking laxatives, having meal plans, counting calories and more some. It’s not as severe compared to when i first met them. But being around a person with an ED 24/7 can also alter your life too. I’ve changed for the better, but in small cases I’ve become more obsessed with my appearance then I used to. I care about how big I’ll get. I care about the foods I consume. I care about my fat hanging over my shorts or jeans or any bottoms I’m wearing. I never use to think like that. But now I do. It’s hard to not be influenced by a person with such problems like these. I honestly do benefit from being around them a lot though.I learn something new about nutrition and how a body works and how i can take care of it. Although she has an ED I can really learn from her and the mistakes that she has made. 

I don’t think it is easy at all for anyone without an ED to understand someone who has one. You can never fully understand the person and what they are thinking. Believe me. I overestimated myself thinking that I understand ED’s from inside out. But I was wrong. When handling someone with an ED the key thing that you have to have with them is patience. I’ve learned that through my 8 months that I’ve spent with them so far.  You can never force feed them, give them bitchy lectures, or put them on the spot when it comes to food. That’s a no, no. I’ve done research about ED’s to try and understand as much as possible. And it really was a huge help in understanding them.

In all honesty the best thing you could possibly do for someone with an ED is have their back. Through my experiences I’ve noticed that she has gotten better after I accepted the fact that she has an emotional connection with food. You have to have the strength to tell them that you won’t force anything upon them and that no matter how bad it gets for them, you’ll be right behind them along the way. The day I told her that it changed our connection. It changed a lot. She appreciated me more and I supported her more. All they want is for someone to have patience, have support and a good hear. 

ED needs patience and understanding.

My girl has that.